Trust
If you ask most couples what is the most important factor in a relationship, 'Trust' would top the list, along with Love. I do feel that trust is a tad bit more important. It is difficult for any kind of relationship to survive without trusting each other, even with love in the picture. Some people lay trust in anyone very easily and the more cynical ones take a long time to trust.
I am writing this post because it was something I personally laid a lot of importance on when looking for a life partner. I trust people easily and consider myself trustworthy too. So for a person like me, to determine if I could trust a person with my life, as my partner, was a gut instinct.
God forbid if anything happens to break the trust, it is a humongous task to win the trust back from the person and resolve the cracks in the relationship. This becomes even more difficult when a marriage experiences this situation. If one person doesn't get the trust from his or her partner, they might start feeling low, disappointed, hurt and left out as well. Here, it would be the responsibility of the partner to believe, to hold-hand and walk together. When you trust your partner explicitly and they don't, it can break your heart, your belief and your faith in the relationship. Knowing the reason for the mistrust is one the primary steps to take towards building your relationship. Some steps to take towards building trust in any relationship are:
1. Talk / Express your emotions & be upfront: If you leave your partner to make guesses and assumptions about how you feel about them, things can go wrong. People can over or under expect. Hiding things are disastrous and when things come to light can kill the trust completely.
2. Being reliable: If you find that you can rely on your partner to do something, always, you start trusting more
3. Let your face & words speak the same: A partner can make out subtle changes in your expressions and body language. If you say things to match your expressions, you can trust without second thoughts.
4. Share your needs & desires: You tend to discover each other everyday and it is easier to let the other person know what things are of importance to you. This should be mutual, so both are happy and do not feel left out.
5. Give insight to the real you: We know ourselves the best. When we start to share our life with someone, it is best to let the your partner know the real you. Things the world may not know about you, but the person living with you should. Maintain transparency in your relationship.
So what qualifications do I have to give so much gyaan on this topic? Actually none. I myself am in a new relationship and learning things along the way. These are some things I have read about, some inputs of mine. Ultimately, it is something that both need to work on, like the saying - 'Talli ek haath se nahi bajti'
Image Courtesy:
http://www.mauricekande.com/2013/10/the-real-value-of-trust-in-relationships.html
http://www.dennisselisseth.com/is-there-trust-in-your-relationship/
http://www.thomasvan.com/relationships/the-difference-between-trust-and-just-not-caring-in-a-relationship
God forbid if anything happens to break the trust, it is a humongous task to win the trust back from the person and resolve the cracks in the relationship. This becomes even more difficult when a marriage experiences this situation. If one person doesn't get the trust from his or her partner, they might start feeling low, disappointed, hurt and left out as well. Here, it would be the responsibility of the partner to believe, to hold-hand and walk together. When you trust your partner explicitly and they don't, it can break your heart, your belief and your faith in the relationship. Knowing the reason for the mistrust is one the primary steps to take towards building your relationship. Some steps to take towards building trust in any relationship are:
1. Talk / Express your emotions & be upfront: If you leave your partner to make guesses and assumptions about how you feel about them, things can go wrong. People can over or under expect. Hiding things are disastrous and when things come to light can kill the trust completely.
2. Being reliable: If you find that you can rely on your partner to do something, always, you start trusting more
3. Let your face & words speak the same: A partner can make out subtle changes in your expressions and body language. If you say things to match your expressions, you can trust without second thoughts.
4. Share your needs & desires: You tend to discover each other everyday and it is easier to let the other person know what things are of importance to you. This should be mutual, so both are happy and do not feel left out.
5. Give insight to the real you: We know ourselves the best. When we start to share our life with someone, it is best to let the your partner know the real you. Things the world may not know about you, but the person living with you should. Maintain transparency in your relationship.
So what qualifications do I have to give so much gyaan on this topic? Actually none. I myself am in a new relationship and learning things along the way. These are some things I have read about, some inputs of mine. Ultimately, it is something that both need to work on, like the saying - 'Talli ek haath se nahi bajti'
Image Courtesy:
http://www.mauricekande.com/2013/10/the-real-value-of-trust-in-relationships.html
http://www.dennisselisseth.com/is-there-trust-in-your-relationship/
http://www.thomasvan.com/relationships/the-difference-between-trust-and-just-not-caring-in-a-relationship
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